“Why should we think upon things that are lovely? Because
thinking determines life. It is a common habit to blame life upon the
environment. Environment modifies life but does not govern life. The soul is
stronger than its’ surroundings.” William Jam
I have decided to remove the guilt trapped in my mind. I am
not sure how I will do it but after it is removed I will attempt to keep it at
bay. I hope I don’t feel guilty if I fail. It appears that most of us on any
given day can find numerous things to feel guilty about. Some of us even let
others pile on the guilt as if we didn’t give ourselves enough to feel guilty
about.
Stop allowing your mind to replay situations that
transpired. Once you’re caught in such a situation you begin to admonish
yourself about what you should have said or done. I do this all the time. Then
one is left open for the onslaught of ideas creeping into your mind regarding better
actions or words one could have done or said. I begin to believe that I was
totally wrong because I didn’t cover all of my bases or didn’t have more
thought for the other person. I immediately buy into the notion that others are
correct in their horrible assessment of me.
The next time I try harder and correct my previous mistakes
but then find myself making other mistakes. I believe I can make people happy,
confident relaxed inspired tolerant and patient. Now I ask myself why I thought
I was God. I can’t force someone to recognize their positive gifts and be
thankful for what they have. I can’t make anyone be in a happy mood even if they
alter other people’s moods for the worst. I can’t change someone’s low self-esteem,
or confidence level. I can’t rip
jealousy anger or a vengeful attitude from another’s heart.
Basically I can’t control others but I now know I can
control myself and my attitude. I can make a difference to others by being
myself that’s it. I can model
demonstrate, lend an ear encourage listen and attempt to say and do the
things I think another needs. I know it isn’t easy because every person I meet
has varying needs. I can only do my best and accept the outcomes. I discovered
that by doing this I can get up the next day clear in my thinking and ready to
embrace a new day with its’ new challenges.
When I let poor outcomes in the guise of angry looks,
remarks or actions influence and infiltrate my mind I am useless to all
including myself. I am down an endless road. It leads nowhere. If I overcome my
insatiable running thoughts of guilt I allow another’s mood to enter behind my
constructed wall. I remain whole alive and well. I may continue my interest of others and
their heartaches or misfortunes without being swallowed by guilt that I could
have should have or failed to do more.
We don’t fail when we mean well. We may have made a
difference that even the angry person may not have noticed. I must move forward
and know I really did my best for the situation at the time, place mindset
ability and my knowledge of the dilemma. Who could ask for more? Many people do
but I know I am not God and I know God influences my words and actions and I
therefore know I attempted to do my utmost to promote a happy situation or an
uplifting moment.
In the end we all create our own reality and we can help
others and not feel that we failed because we don’t get a total victory which will
bring on the guilt. I will repeat myself
and say that if I feel guilty now I know it is because I am allowing it to have
power over me so I resist, close my eyes and say “I won’t go there.”
After all, I also am
in charge of creating my own attitude and reality. It is my life and I am in
charge of it. I quote a remarkable speaker, musician and writer “Your life can
shrink or expand,” Kent Gustavson
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